The problems a hijabi has to face in todays world

Assalamulikum,

Islam is a very true and peaceful religion for those who understand it right. i am no expert but i do my research about my religion and always learning new things and always getting impressed. In today's world everyone is molding the religion into their beliefs, politics, needs, and desires. the most common example of this is when i see people harshly criticising each other in the name of Islam and forget about the fact that it can hurt someone very deeply. Being a woman i wanna shed some light on the criticism a muslimah has to go through when she is trying to be a hijabi and a better Muslim in today's world.

Firstly i am concerned about the non-muslims classifying a hijabi differently in their society. they look at her either with pity or hatred. she is put on a routine check at the airports most of the times. she is called insulting names. she is asked stupid questions like, ''dont u get hot?'' or ''why is your religion so hard on women'' or the craziest one is when she is asked '' are you a terrorist?'' and the funny thing is that these people think that muslim men are so cruel and making us cover ourselves forcefully. i just wanna let them know that my hijab is my choice and i love it more than anything. i know that there had been cases in the world when women were forced to do certain things but come on they weren't all Muslims, so we cant just blame the whole religion just because of some bad ones. So them being the unfortunate non-muslims and not knowing the most beautiful religion ever the criticism coming from them can be understandable.

But the judgements i am more concerned about are coming from our own muslim sisters themselves that is just wrong. they should understand that if a woman is a hijabi she surely is giving up alot of her desires and hopes already. when you try in the field of Islam its considered jihad by Allah so why be so hard on her and act like a hijab police. if a sister is covered properly but has some makeup on, the hijab police would go crazy on her. If a sister has made a bun, the hijab police would start talking about her going to hell. If a sister is wearing lose lose clothes but her hijab slips and her neck shows, oh my god! ; the hijab police would arrest her and would even gang up on her lol. its funny but its true.

I just became a hijabi a lil more than a year ago and i have been facing all this all along. there's a younger generation who might get scared away even before experiencing the real beauty of hijab. i make videos and posts on my fan pages to attract that younger generation because they are the future of Islam. if i tell them that hijab means no looking good they will never wanna go on that path. you know in today's world looking ugly or any lesser is not acceptable and considered very uncool. i wanna show the world that u can do almost anything thats not prohibited by islam offcourse, and still be a hijabi. you can style your hijab and use accessories or even use makeup every now n then; its not considered haram.

When i was in high school there were a bunch of hijabis who just looked so left out all the time n no one would ever wanna hang out with them. Astaghfirullah even i felt embarrassed talking to them (may Allah forgive me). eventually, one of those girls stopped hijab n started dressing in tank tops and revealing clothes just to fit in. Even i thought it was too much of her to do that but she got more friends than me in a few months. if someone is not accepted by their own people they are obviously gonna find a way to fit somewhere else. This is something i don't wanna see that just to fit in with your non muslim and non hijabi friends u take your hijab off. If the girls find appreciation and love from their own sisters trust me nothing will make them leave. Living in non-muslim countries the kids already have so many restrictions on them. Us as a family should make it easier for each other to follow the religion. We should let our younger sisters know that they cant talk about guys, alcohol n sex (all the harams) offcourse, but they can talk about almost everything else like makeup, school, styling, shoes, family and jewelry and etc. if our hijabis find alot of good stuff in common with the non-hijabis they wouldn't have to try to fit in by doing stupid stuff. They can be stronger when they stand right next to eachother. If we show this to the next generation , they will be attracted and i am already seeing this happening.

 I have a huge family of more than 50 people in the USA mashallah and i was the first one to start the proper hijab mashallah and today there are many and counting. i am very happy that i could be an inspiration for them even the little cousins wanna do hijab now. Dont u thinks that's great??? and i am very proud that i portrayed the proper hijab in a fun and stylish way. and now these girls going to school feeling proud of being Muslim hijabis. This is a great achievement for me. I know that hijab is not just the covering, its a way of life but who said u cant live a proper hijabified life with a hint of fashion and style?

If Allah wanted he could have prohibited the use of makeup or nice clothes and etc, like he has prohibited the other things, directly. Don't think that there was no makeup in  Prophet SAW's era. Women used eye kohl, kajals and even henna on their body. Prophet S.A.W talked directly about the eyebrows so he could have talked directly about the makeup and the hijab bun. But he didn't so why we make Islam too hard on ourselves and others??

We as Muslims should all stick together and act against the kuffars. But no! we wanna go after each other cuz its easier right??? why don't we see the purity of ones heart ?? why only wanna point out the negatives especially of those who are already fighting their NAFS? sisters we should build each other up so we can bring the Islam to the highest level instead of bringing each other down. If a woman doesn't follow her religion its her deed between her n god. i know as Muslims we are supposed to spread the message of Islam. That doesn't mean to just trash someone on some social networking site, or be sarcastic about them, or gossip, or make fun of them. An advice should be given privately, softly and nicely so it doesn't hurt anybody's feelings or reputation in society or make them feel bad.

My friends i am sorry if any of my words offended anyone i was just expressing my thoughts, experiences, and beliefs. i have been hurt many times and i don't want the new hijabis face the same problems. May Allah bless us all. Ameen

GET THE BEST SKIN IN JUST ONE DAY

salam my ladies,,

just a quicky....
i put this video up on youtube about three weeks ago.. this is basically a tutorial on a homemade scrub that makes your skin go crazy good. my face feels like baby skin... i use this once a week as i am a lazy butt. but you can use it everyday as its all natural n without any sideeffects. this scrub can be used in shower on all over your body and you will love it. the written recipe for this scrub is posted under the video just keep scrolling down and if u wanna watch me make it and put it on then play the video. love ya all.

ingredients (organics r better):
2 tbsp brown sugar
1/4 tsp of olive oil (leave this if u have very oily skin)
1/4 tsp of your regular cleanser (i use purity by philosophy)
about 3-4 drops of lemon juice

mix everything together in a little bowl and put it on your face.
leave it on for a couple of minutes.
then on a sink, wet ur hand n keep scrubbing gently.
then rinse it off.
you will feel the difference after the fist use.

HOW I DO MY EYEBROWS, THE HALAL WAY

ASSALAMULIKUM LADIES

i have been asked so many times about how i do my eyebrows without looking like a troll and still be on the halal track!!

you can use the technique of concealing your brows from the video down below. i hope this helps.
take care
love yall

HIJAB STYLE FOR A DULHAN / BRIDE

SALAM
when i got married, i wasnt a hijabi that i regret so much.... but after noticing that theres not much info available on internet about  how to hijabify a desi bride from pakistan, india, or bangladesh. i decided to make this video. check it out and let me know what you think.

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